The Value of Revealing Imperfection

Leaders, teachers, speakers, advisers, consultants, or anyone who appears in such positions, want to present themselves as knowledgeable, informed and confident. They wouldn’t be doing what they are unless they had some background or expertise, thought the information was important, and had the self-confidence to present the information to others. Although everyone tries to appear perfect, sometimes we forget that showing flaws may be the best teaching method of all. None of us is perfect and none of the information we have is complete. Every piece of data we have learned is subject to change, increase in knowledge and modification. Human beings are inherently striving, learning, growing and changing every minute of their lives. So, should we just give up and “wing it,” “fly by the seat of our pants,” and be sloppy in our work and in passing on tools and education? Of course not!  Everyone needs to be as thoughtful, precise, accurate and diligent as we can when we seek to support, help and inform others. Vince Lombardi once said, “Perfection is not attainable, but if we chase perfection we can catch excellence.” It is our obligation as communicators of knowledge and skills to take pride in our work and teaching as we pursue excellence. Having said that, many of us were taught that we had to be perfect. If we failed in any respect, it meant that we were unlovable, incapable, or inadequate. Mistakes were unacceptable and unforgivable. This places a terrible burden on a child to achieve the unattainable and tells them that what they do is more important than who they are. This lesson...
Trusting Your Truth

Trusting Your Truth

In these days of the uncertainty of “alternative facts”, media hype, changing values, moving targets of political parties and the lack of consensus with the core view of what our country, our families, friends and communities agree upon, I find that most people I talk to have an underlying feeling of anxiety and depression. This tension in the public sector is being felt in our bodies, minds and spirits as we seek to reconcile our outer world with seeking our inner truth. Conflicts within family, friends and social gatherings are still seeking equilibrium as the conflicting political situation is still unresolved in the country and around the globe. So how do we find our Truth and stay in Trust and Serenity when so much is unsettled around us? Discovering your truth: We are taught at a young age to listen our parents, the teachers at school, learn from our books, believe the dogma of our religious leaders and trust our elected officials. This is a good way to learn as a child when we need to understand a complex world with many layers of facts, beliefs, cultural backgrounds and social systems to live in. Once we become adults, we need to learn another way to find our personal truth. To discern whether what we are being told is opinion, fact, belief, history (a story based on facts, recreations of events from the ‘winner’s’ perspective), science, feeling or influence by a person’s past and their perspective. We need to shift information and come to our own conclusion to determine what we think or believe. But very few of us are...

Clear the Trauma of War Wounds

We celebrate Independence Day here in the United States on July 4th. Other countries celebrate their independence from tyrants or oppressors on other days of the year. One thing most of us have in common is that the separation from prior governments has been violent. Many lives were lost, both military and civilian. People were caught up on both sides of the conflict of separation and innocent men, women and children were also victims of these wars. As descendants of these conflicts we celebrate the freedoms won. Our world is a much different than it was hundreds of years ago when colonialism, slavery, monarchy, religious domination and control ruled the world. In some places these issues still dominate but they do not direct most countries’ governments. However, we still feel the impact of these conflicts and wars in our bones—in our DNA. War, genocide, slavery, victim hood, famine, rape and infanticide are traumas inflicted by and to our ancestors. Unless our genomes (3 billion base pairs of DNA) are cleared of these traumas, we continue to process the effects in such ways ill health (alcoholism, drug addiction, depression, mental illness, diabetes, cancer), anger management, poverty, suicidal thoughts, inability to maintain loving relationships, physical and emotional abuse, accidents and the desire not to live on this planet. It has only been in this generation that we have recognized PTSD as an injury of war though it was called battle fatigue, shell shock, combat fatigue and other terms in earlier wars. If this battle trauma is not recognized and dealt with it is passed on to future generations in the genome....

Healing Family Estrangements

I often hear heartbreaking stories by many people who talk of family members they haven’t seen, spoken to or been in contact with for years or decades. Our family of origin gives us our first experiences of life and love. They teach us how to interact with each other and the planet in intimate ways that we never really lose. The bonds created in the early formative years sink deeply in our brains, emotions, physical and spiritual natures. When those bonds break or are stretched across time and space our hearts feel the loss and grieve. Why should you even be concerned about healing the estrangement in your family? If you’ve done fine without them for this long, why change now? Because if you have cut off your parents then the pattern may continue with your children. They may deliberately walk away from you if you don’t learn how to heal these family wounds. Then the pattern will repeat again in the next generation. If your siblings are at odds, then it may continue with fragmented families in future generations. We lose our support systems when we lose family connections. Sometimes we or they feel justified in cutting the ties. Disastrous divorces with bitter custody disputes often cut off parents from access to children. The custodial parent may think the child is better off with the other parent in their life because of religious, lifestyle, drug, alcohol or abuse issues but child/parental bonds are inherently strong and continue years after non-custodial parents give up and abandon the fight. The hole in the life of both the parent and child...

Recognizing Ancestral Trauma to Heal for Happiness

The most frequent question I get from clients is how do I know if this issue I have in my life is right for Ancestral Lineage Clearing or is it a past life problem, a curse, a karma challenge or  did I just make a bad turn when I was young? Actually, it is fairly easy to tell if the issue that is disrupting your happiness arises from your ancestral heritage—take a look at the other members of your family and your family history and see if they have the same or similar issues–look at your extended family, not just your parent or siblings. Let take some examples so you can see what I mean.   Many clients come to me with a variety of financial challenges—not just poverty, as in “I can’t get a job, I can’t make money”—but issues about not having enough money or losing money: I can’t get a decent job; I make a lot of money then my partner steals my business; the industry I was trained has disappeared and I have no other skills; I lost it all my money in the stock market; my business went bankrupt; all my retirement money was lost when my company closed down; I got cancer and had no insurance and all my money went to health care…. Some have been in positions of money, success and power and lost it all and now are bereft. So we take a look at their families—their grandparents immigrants were successful but went through the depression and then lost everything and never recouped. Their grandparents were Native Americans, African-Americans, or Jewish...

Ancestral Clearing & Curses

I was recently discussing the issue of ‘curses’ with a student who asked whether Ancestral Lineage Clearing could remove them. I gave him the much-disliked reply of, “It depends.” Firstly: what is a curse? Centuries ago a curse was a prayer for evil and misfortune to befall another. In some countries, women could curse you with the ‘evil eye’ to make your hair fall out, milk sour, children fall ill or accidents occur until and unless you did their bidding. A person could go to a witch or warlock and purchase a curse against someone for a specific purpose, generally evil. Nowadays, we don’t tend to think of people ‘cursing’ us with spells or the evil eye. A curse in essence is bad energy sent our way with ill intent. It can be as simple as someone ‘flipping you off’ in traffic if you do something they don’t like; shoving ahead of you in line and giving you a dirty look. This is tossing ill will and bad energy. If you absorb it and take it on it will darken and disturb your energy field, drain you, divert your attention from your job or family and take away your joy and life energy. We can easily release this energy by cleansing our energy fields regularly and blessing those who throw negative energy around unknowingly. The more common and intrusive curses, which we don’t recognize as such and don’t call them curses, are the negative intentions and bad energy sent with ill intent generally by someone close to us. I find these incidents generally in divorces or relationship break-ups where...