The Value of Revealing Imperfection

Leaders, teachers, speakers, advisers, consultants, or anyone who appears in such positions, want to present themselves as knowledgeable, informed and confident. They wouldn’t be doing what they are unless they had some background or expertise, thought the information was important, and had the self-confidence to present the information to others. Although everyone tries to appear perfect, sometimes we forget that showing flaws may be the best teaching method of all. None of us is perfect and none of the information we have is complete. Every piece of data we have learned is subject to change, increase in knowledge and modification. Human beings are inherently striving, learning, growing and changing every minute of their lives. So, should we just give up and “wing it,” “fly by the seat of our pants,” and be sloppy in our work and in passing on tools and education? Of course not!  Everyone needs to be as thoughtful, precise, accurate and diligent as we can when we seek to support, help and inform others. Vince Lombardi once said, “Perfection is not attainable, but if we chase perfection we can catch excellence.” It is our obligation as communicators of knowledge and skills to take pride in our work and teaching as we pursue excellence. Having said that, many of us were taught that we had to be perfect. If we failed in any respect, it meant that we were unlovable, incapable, or inadequate. Mistakes were unacceptable and unforgivable. This places a terrible burden on a child to achieve the unattainable and tells them that what they do is more important than who they are. This lesson...
Trusting Your Truth

Trusting Your Truth

In these days of the uncertainty of “alternative facts”, media hype, changing values, moving targets of political parties and the lack of consensus with the core view of what our country, our families, friends and communities agree upon, I find that most people I talk to have an underlying feeling of anxiety and depression. This tension in the public sector is being felt in our bodies, minds and spirits as we seek to reconcile our outer world with seeking our inner truth. Conflicts within family, friends and social gatherings are still seeking equilibrium as the conflicting political situation is still unresolved in the country and around the globe. So how do we find our Truth and stay in Trust and Serenity when so much is unsettled around us? Discovering your truth: We are taught at a young age to listen our parents, the teachers at school, learn from our books, believe the dogma of our religious leaders and trust our elected officials. This is a good way to learn as a child when we need to understand a complex world with many layers of facts, beliefs, cultural backgrounds and social systems to live in. Once we become adults, we need to learn another way to find our personal truth. To discern whether what we are being told is opinion, fact, belief, history (a story based on facts, recreations of events from the ‘winner’s’ perspective), science, feeling or influence by a person’s past and their perspective. We need to shift information and come to our own conclusion to determine what we think or believe. But very few of us are...
Disruption in the World can be healed by Forgiveness and Self-Love

Disruption in the World can be healed by Forgiveness and Self-Love

Do you find yourself walking around during the day angry, bitter and confused? Are you trying to move on with your life but feeling out of sorts, unable to distinguish between truth, illusion, reality, ‘alternative facts’, and hype?  Are you experiencing disruptions in the world and short tempers at home? Join the crowd. In addition to the emotional upsets flooding the country over the political situation, the divisiveness after the election and the international responses that have occurred, many areas of the country have been experiencing devastating fires, floods, tornadoes, mudslides and other natural disasters. So, what do you do when these negative feelings eat up your energy, turn your life upside down and continue to wreak turmoil days, weeks and months later? Acknowledge and accept what is surrounding you. Why? Because we cannot heal what we don’t know is wounded. We can’t fix what we can’t see is broken. We can’t forgive what we don’t acknowledge is hurting. If we are stuck in blame, making someone wrong or bad, fixing fault with another or being defensive, then we cannot take responsibility for our part in creating our reality. Chiron, the wounded healer in astrology, teaches us to heal ourselves before we heal others, thus learning what healing needs to take place. If you are upset about what is going on in the world today, take a look at your life. Is it in turmoil? Are you unhappy with the job you chose, the relationship, the career, the place you live, your lifestyle or your friends? Our outer world is a reflection of our inner world which means a...