Disruption in the World can be healed by Forgiveness and Self-Love

Disruption in the World can be healed by Forgiveness and Self-Love

Do you find yourself walking around during the day angry, bitter and confused? Are you trying to move on with your life but feeling out of sorts, unable to distinguish between truth, illusion, reality, ‘alternative facts’, and hype?  Are you experiencing disruptions in the world and short tempers at home? Join the crowd. In addition to the emotional upsets flooding the country over the political situation, the divisiveness after the election and the international responses that have occurred, many areas of the country have been experiencing devastating fires, floods, tornadoes, mudslides and other natural disasters. So, what do you do when these negative feelings eat up your energy, turn your life upside down and continue to wreak turmoil days, weeks and months later? Acknowledge and accept what is surrounding you. Why? Because we cannot heal what we don’t know is wounded. We can’t fix what we can’t see is broken. We can’t forgive what we don’t acknowledge is hurting. If we are stuck in blame, making someone wrong or bad, fixing fault with another or being defensive, then we cannot take responsibility for our part in creating our reality. Chiron, the wounded healer in astrology, teaches us to heal ourselves before we heal others, thus learning what healing needs to take place. If you are upset about what is going on in the world today, take a look at your life. Is it in turmoil? Are you unhappy with the job you chose, the relationship, the career, the place you live, your lifestyle or your friends? Our outer world is a reflection of our inner world which means a...

2017 Happy Resolutions

We all know by now that traditional New Year’s Resolutions don’t work. Studies reveal only 8% succeed at fulfilling their resolutions and 49% are infrequently successful because resolution are about changing undesirable traits or altering bad habits. As we have learned from the Law of Attraction, where we put our attention energy flows. I suggest we refocus our resolutions to create Resolutions to bring more happiness and joy into our lives this year. Let’s start small this year with just 5 resolutions. Here are my suggestions: Plan a magic vacation: Sit down with your loved ones or a friend and dream of wherever in the world you would really, really like to go. Then start planning. Get brochures, maps, pictures, histories, things to do in the area, camping equipment, language tapes, plan the cost and begin saving. Set a budget, check out airfares, gas costs, boat rentals, ski rentals…whatever. Half the fun is anticipation. If you have children, get them involved. What do they want to see, do explore, learn? f you just want to go locally to a mountain, lake or stateside destination, plan for a logical time when the weather is good you can ask for time from work, when school is out, coordinate schedules. If your destination is exotic, expensive or time consuming and you are taking the whole family and going to Fuji for example, this may take several years of planning and saving. But check out discount travel sites and last minute travel and cruise internet sites for deals. You don’t need to wait until retirement to have a dream experience. Plan an event/party:...

5 Daily Practices for Happiness

I recently learned that choosing happiness can make a difference in your life and health. For 10 years Harvard Professor Shawn Anchor studied happiness and reported his findings in his book The   Happiness Advantage: If we can get somebody to raise their levels of optimism or deepen their social connection or raise happiness, [it] turns out every single business and educational outcome we know how to test for improves dramatically. You can increase your success rates for the rest of your life and your happiness levels will flat line, but if you raise your level of happiness and deepen optimism it turns out every single one of your success rates rises dramatically compared to what it would have been at negative, neutral, or stressed. If we take a positive approach to life, we are more likely to succeed. I have followed the KISS principle (Keep It Simple Sweetie). Here are my 5 happiness principles: Be Positive: I choose to focus on the positive and see happiness surrounding me every day. I appreciate the sunshine and the rain; the birds singing, the squirrels running up the trees; my computer working daily; the family and friends and pets in my life. There is beauty all around if we choose to see it. I am optimistic. Be Grateful: I am grateful for waking up every morning healthy, with a home, a job, money to pay the bills, food on the table and to share, my cats to share my life, my healing work, my connection to Spirit, my friends, family, neighbors and clients. Be Loving: I say ‘I love you’ to my...

Healing Family Estrangements

I often hear heartbreaking stories by many people who talk of family members they haven’t seen, spoken to or been in contact with for years or decades. Our family of origin gives us our first experiences of life and love. They teach us how to interact with each other and the planet in intimate ways that we never really lose. The bonds created in the early formative years sink deeply in our brains, emotions, physical and spiritual natures. When those bonds break or are stretched across time and space our hearts feel the loss and grieve. Why should you even be concerned about healing the estrangement in your family? If you’ve done fine without them for this long, why change now? Because if you have cut off your parents then the pattern may continue with your children. They may deliberately walk away from you if you don’t learn how to heal these family wounds. Then the pattern will repeat again in the next generation. If your siblings are at odds, then it may continue with fragmented families in future generations. We lose our support systems when we lose family connections. Sometimes we or they feel justified in cutting the ties. Disastrous divorces with bitter custody disputes often cut off parents from access to children. The custodial parent may think the child is better off with the other parent in their life because of religious, lifestyle, drug, alcohol or abuse issues but child/parental bonds are inherently strong and continue years after non-custodial parents give up and abandon the fight. The hole in the life of both the parent and child...

Control or Chaos

When I went out to plant the spring flowers I faced the usual dilemma: do I plant them in a row or a circle or scatter them about randomly? When I look at Mother Nature there doesn’t appear to be any order yet everything is so beautiful to the eye and spirit. How does this happen? The same dilemma occurs in life. If I want everything under control I set a rigid schedule and everyday is planned. I can get many tasks accomplished. I am also exhausted at the end of the day. If someone calls and asks me to lunch or dinner, there is no room for flexibility. I used to have a To Do List that always had at least a dozen items on it everyday. If I finished half of them I was lucky. It left me feeling stressed, unsatisfied and unfulfilled. I continuously felt like I was “not enough” even though no one else was unhappy with what I was doing. I wasn’t satisfying my expectation. It was all about control. The need to control generally arises from fear. Fear of losing our job; losing our relationship; losing authority over children; losing money, often losing emotional control. If we have control over the details of our life, then we tell ourselves, bad things won’t happen. We never can have enough control over the external world. The sun will rise whether we want it to or not. Our children will catch colds at school no matter how careful we are with prevention. The stock market rises and falls and jobs come and go.  We cannot control...

2015 Energy of Success

Last year seemed to be a year of building ideas and momentum. Most people and clients I know were shifting through ideas, moving homes or businesses and positioning themselves to take advantage of changing markets. This was not a time of stability or certainty but a year of searching, testing and creating in looking for new directions. Several clients had been frustrated because their efforts to move forward have not been immediately rewarded when they changed focus. The time was not ripe. With the new year the energy has now shifted. We have moved into the energy of material success, achievement, community development, and particularly business and institutional change. We have been seeing the reforms in health care, elder and mental health care, prison and child welfare that were stymied in the last few years by the recession now being implemented. These large institutional changes have a long way to go and will take time to shift. Meanwhile personal improvements are easier to manage. If you have been working on business, creative projects, self-development or financial achievements and have laid a solid foundation, the energy of 2015 is flowing in your favor now. The flood gates to success have now been opened and you can ride the tide. You must have prepared for this goal in advance. Merely starting a business in January and expecting to make a million bucks without a solid plan, financial backing and hard work will not create success. Studying your market, creating your project step by step, knowing your life purpose and where you want to pour your energy, the people you want to...