5 Hints to Find Balance in Chaos

The past several weeks have brought a lot of upheaval to many lives some good, some not-so-good. Expectations regarding the future of our president, our government, of the new direction of our country in the next 4 years were overturned by a new candidate and unpredicted events in the usual course of politics. Confusion is the prevailing emotion because none of the analysts, newscasters and public figures can anticipate the normal course of business of government based upon the past record of President-elect Trump since there is no past record. So uncertainly and unease are now the norm. How do we deal with this uncertainty in the upcoming months until we know what impact Trump’s Presidency will have on our day-to-day lives? The answer is to stay balanced and centered within yourself. Here are 5 simple ways to help us find our balance: 1. Acknowledge Reality: Face the facts and accept them. The fact is Trump is our President-Elect and will take office. Breathe. It is reality. Do not anticipate the worst, hope for the best. No matter what the President wants to do personally, he is still constrained by the Constitution and the good intentions of the advisors and elected officials that serve this country. Learn to trust the system. Until we accept the reality we cannot begin to change our feelings or behavior. The past cannot be changed so acknowledge and accept what is. 2. Express your emotions: Do not ignore your feelings of disappointment, fear, grief, anger or betrayal. If we ignore, stuff or disregard those feelings, they are likely to come out at inappropriate moments....

5 Daily Practices for Happiness

I recently learned that choosing happiness can make a difference in your life and health. For 10 years Harvard Professor Shawn Anchor studied happiness and reported his findings in his book The   Happiness Advantage: If we can get somebody to raise their levels of optimism or deepen their social connection or raise happiness, [it] turns out every single business and educational outcome we know how to test for improves dramatically. You can increase your success rates for the rest of your life and your happiness levels will flat line, but if you raise your level of happiness and deepen optimism it turns out every single one of your success rates rises dramatically compared to what it would have been at negative, neutral, or stressed. If we take a positive approach to life, we are more likely to succeed. I have followed the KISS principle (Keep It Simple Sweetie). Here are my 5 happiness principles: Be Positive: I choose to focus on the positive and see happiness surrounding me every day. I appreciate the sunshine and the rain; the birds singing, the squirrels running up the trees; my computer working daily; the family and friends and pets in my life. There is beauty all around if we choose to see it. I am optimistic. Be Grateful: I am grateful for waking up every morning healthy, with a home, a job, money to pay the bills, food on the table and to share, my cats to share my life, my healing work, my connection to Spirit, my friends, family, neighbors and clients. Be Loving: I say ‘I love you’ to my...

Clear the Trauma of War Wounds

We celebrate Independence Day here in the United States on July 4th. Other countries celebrate their independence from tyrants or oppressors on other days of the year. One thing most of us have in common is that the separation from prior governments has been violent. Many lives were lost, both military and civilian. People were caught up on both sides of the conflict of separation and innocent men, women and children were also victims of these wars. As descendants of these conflicts we celebrate the freedoms won. Our world is a much different than it was hundreds of years ago when colonialism, slavery, monarchy, religious domination and control ruled the world. In some places these issues still dominate but they do not direct most countries’ governments. However, we still feel the impact of these conflicts and wars in our bones—in our DNA. War, genocide, slavery, victim hood, famine, rape and infanticide are traumas inflicted by and to our ancestors. Unless our genomes (3 billion base pairs of DNA) are cleared of these traumas, we continue to process the effects in such ways ill health (alcoholism, drug addiction, depression, mental illness, diabetes, cancer), anger management, poverty, suicidal thoughts, inability to maintain loving relationships, physical and emotional abuse, accidents and the desire not to live on this planet. It has only been in this generation that we have recognized PTSD as an injury of war though it was called battle fatigue, shell shock, combat fatigue and other terms in earlier wars. If this battle trauma is not recognized and dealt with it is passed on to future generations in the genome....

Healing Family Estrangements

I often hear heartbreaking stories by many people who talk of family members they haven’t seen, spoken to or been in contact with for years or decades. Our family of origin gives us our first experiences of life and love. They teach us how to interact with each other and the planet in intimate ways that we never really lose. The bonds created in the early formative years sink deeply in our brains, emotions, physical and spiritual natures. When those bonds break or are stretched across time and space our hearts feel the loss and grieve. Why should you even be concerned about healing the estrangement in your family? If you’ve done fine without them for this long, why change now? Because if you have cut off your parents then the pattern may continue with your children. They may deliberately walk away from you if you don’t learn how to heal these family wounds. Then the pattern will repeat again in the next generation. If your siblings are at odds, then it may continue with fragmented families in future generations. We lose our support systems when we lose family connections. Sometimes we or they feel justified in cutting the ties. Disastrous divorces with bitter custody disputes often cut off parents from access to children. The custodial parent may think the child is better off with the other parent in their life because of religious, lifestyle, drug, alcohol or abuse issues but child/parental bonds are inherently strong and continue years after non-custodial parents give up and abandon the fight. The hole in the life of both the parent and child...

Recognizing Ancestral Trauma to Heal for Happiness

The most frequent question I get from clients is how do I know if this issue I have in my life is right for Ancestral Lineage Clearing or is it a past life problem, a curse, a karma challenge or  did I just make a bad turn when I was young? Actually, it is fairly easy to tell if the issue that is disrupting your happiness arises from your ancestral heritage—take a look at the other members of your family and your family history and see if they have the same or similar issues–look at your extended family, not just your parent or siblings. Let take some examples so you can see what I mean.   Many clients come to me with a variety of financial challenges—not just poverty, as in “I can’t get a job, I can’t make money”—but issues about not having enough money or losing money: I can’t get a decent job; I make a lot of money then my partner steals my business; the industry I was trained has disappeared and I have no other skills; I lost it all my money in the stock market; my business went bankrupt; all my retirement money was lost when my company closed down; I got cancer and had no insurance and all my money went to health care…. Some have been in positions of money, success and power and lost it all and now are bereft. So we take a look at their families—their grandparents immigrants were successful but went through the depression and then lost everything and never recouped. Their grandparents were Native Americans, African-Americans, or Jewish...

Heal for Your Future and Others

Heal for Your Future and Others   We all have 3.2 billion base pair of DNA molecules in our bodies. Most of these are identical with other living species on the planet. What makes humans unique is our self-awareness and our ability to change our environment and our bodies to respond to events.   Changing our DNA patterns is generally a long term process unless there is mutation. DNA is the blueprint that determines our body’s form, much of our health and some of our personality. Science has made massive strides in discovering how these genes operate. In recent years the science of epigenetics (“in addition to changes in genetic sequence”) has emerged and is changing our concepts of how DNA influences our lives.   Caroline Davis2010 _ Foter _ CC BY Genetics is the study of the DNA we inherit from our parents and their ancestors. When a baby is born this DNA is inherited in an almost pure form with very few attachments.   Epigenetics are the ‘attachments’ we all collect during life–physical, emotional, environmental, mental etc. Scientist have found these epigenetics are important because they are the triggers that turn on certain diseases, behaviors and other health factors in our DNA such MS, heart disease, diabetes, cancer and autoimmune diseases.   If you think of DNA as an ice cream cone (like a portion of the DNA helix) epigenetics is the ice cream we fill in with our life experience. It is the food we eat, the air we breathe, the abuse we encounter, the emotional attachments we make, our lifestyle choices–smoking, drinking, exercise, learning–and the...