The Value of Revealing Imperfection

Leaders, teachers, speakers, advisers, consultants, or anyone who appears in such positions, want to present themselves as knowledgeable, informed and confident. They wouldn’t be doing what they are unless they had some background or expertise, thought the information was important, and had the self-confidence to present the information to others. Although everyone tries to appear perfect, sometimes we forget that showing flaws may be the best teaching method of all. None of us is perfect and none of the information we have is complete. Every piece of data we have learned is subject to change, increase in knowledge and modification. Human beings are inherently striving, learning, growing and changing every minute of their lives. So, should we just give up and “wing it,” “fly by the seat of our pants,” and be sloppy in our work and in passing on tools and education? Of course not!  Everyone needs to be as thoughtful, precise, accurate and diligent as we can when we seek to support, help and inform others. Vince Lombardi once said, “Perfection is not attainable, but if we chase perfection we can catch excellence.” It is our obligation as communicators of knowledge and skills to take pride in our work and teaching as we pursue excellence. Having said that, many of us were taught that we had to be perfect. If we failed in any respect, it meant that we were unlovable, incapable, or inadequate. Mistakes were unacceptable and unforgivable. This places a terrible burden on a child to achieve the unattainable and tells them that what they do is more important than who they are. This lesson...
Disruption in the World can be healed by Forgiveness and Self-Love

Disruption in the World can be healed by Forgiveness and Self-Love

Do you find yourself walking around during the day angry, bitter and confused? Are you trying to move on with your life but feeling out of sorts, unable to distinguish between truth, illusion, reality, ‘alternative facts’, and hype?  Are you experiencing disruptions in the world and short tempers at home? Join the crowd. In addition to the emotional upsets flooding the country over the political situation, the divisiveness after the election and the international responses that have occurred, many areas of the country have been experiencing devastating fires, floods, tornadoes, mudslides and other natural disasters. So, what do you do when these negative feelings eat up your energy, turn your life upside down and continue to wreak turmoil days, weeks and months later? Acknowledge and accept what is surrounding you. Why? Because we cannot heal what we don’t know is wounded. We can’t fix what we can’t see is broken. We can’t forgive what we don’t acknowledge is hurting. If we are stuck in blame, making someone wrong or bad, fixing fault with another or being defensive, then we cannot take responsibility for our part in creating our reality. Chiron, the wounded healer in astrology, teaches us to heal ourselves before we heal others, thus learning what healing needs to take place. If you are upset about what is going on in the world today, take a look at your life. Is it in turmoil? Are you unhappy with the job you chose, the relationship, the career, the place you live, your lifestyle or your friends? Our outer world is a reflection of our inner world which means a...

2017 Happy Resolutions

We all know by now that traditional New Year’s Resolutions don’t work. Studies reveal only 8% succeed at fulfilling their resolutions and 49% are infrequently successful because resolution are about changing undesirable traits or altering bad habits. As we have learned from the Law of Attraction, where we put our attention energy flows. I suggest we refocus our resolutions to create Resolutions to bring more happiness and joy into our lives this year. Let’s start small this year with just 5 resolutions. Here are my suggestions: Plan a magic vacation: Sit down with your loved ones or a friend and dream of wherever in the world you would really, really like to go. Then start planning. Get brochures, maps, pictures, histories, things to do in the area, camping equipment, language tapes, plan the cost and begin saving. Set a budget, check out airfares, gas costs, boat rentals, ski rentals…whatever. Half the fun is anticipation. If you have children, get them involved. What do they want to see, do explore, learn? f you just want to go locally to a mountain, lake or stateside destination, plan for a logical time when the weather is good you can ask for time from work, when school is out, coordinate schedules. If your destination is exotic, expensive or time consuming and you are taking the whole family and going to Fuji for example, this may take several years of planning and saving. But check out discount travel sites and last minute travel and cruise internet sites for deals. You don’t need to wait until retirement to have a dream experience. Plan an event/party:...